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I didn't see the post that got you into trouble before it got removed.Hi Wu,
I take it that you were among the folks on the other site that didn't get time to read the actual post that caused all the trouble for me. The boss was pretty damn quick in removing it.
Basically I was accused of heresy.
Proper people know that there is only one way to go through life. The one the church insists on (or rather it did when it had the power) and that is you get married, be faithful to your spouse. Don't covert the neighbour's ass etc. Then you die and go to Heaven.
Of course, many marriages doesn't last very long for a variety of reasons. But back in the day, the folks had to put up with it. Divorce was hard to come by and brought with it a sense of failure and shame. Didn't matter what the problems were.
Thing is, the option was to live as a bachelor.(or spinster). Both these options carried some form of negative cache. If you were female you were probably a witch, if male probably homosexual. The church was a bit uncomfortable with that one.
So, all I suggested was that the option for living alone be considered at late school level. By that age, the kids were able to understand what was going on and why couples didn't last. And the effects of the break ups; both financial and psychological.
I was suggesting that the kids, maybe in their last few week at school, were shown that it was ok not to form a partnership. That there really was no need to get hitched simply to have access to (theoretically) unlimited sex with someone who would be honour bound to accept the situation. Even if it did mean you would have to wash your own cloths and do your own cooking. After all, you can't marry your mother; well, not in the UK.
And this applies to both girls and boys. It may be a lonelier existence, but it doesn't need to be. And it can save a lot of trouble in the future. Do you want to work at a relationship for the best part of your life only to find out that one of you is unfaithful or totally unsuitable for you. That you did in fact make a mistake. A mistake that it is now going to cost you most of what you worked for. And time is moving on.
This applies to both sexes. I only know two people who are still married to their first partner, and one of them wishes he hadn't.
But, by doing this I am denying the wish of society, and deep down, the church.
HAL, Heretic. Damn glad we don't still have the Holy Roman Inquisition.
Wait ! do I hear a knock at the door ? It's the Inquisition. But I'm not expecting them.
(No one expects the Inquisition)
So, Dundee, Yes, it may seem transnational. But you yourself point out the positive aspects.
The trick is to see them BEFORE getting attached.
You need a plan.
(I didn't)
HAL.
If that's the whole story it's dreadful but normally there are 3 sides to every story, yours, theirs & the truth. I can't really judge unless I know the whole story as I haven't got enough information to make a proper judgement.
That's a load of rubbish. There is no single right way & no single wrong way to live your life. There are many different right ways to live your life. There are also many different wrong ways to lead your life too & these are only dictated by the law of the land in which you live unless you decide to believe in & practise a religion. Then you live your life according to the rules of the religion you believe in & practise.
There was a 3rd option. That was to devote yourself to the church & become a monk if you were male & a nun if you were female (until Protestantism took over of course).
I'm very sorry to disappoint you but the idea of teaching children that it's o.k. not to find a partner & get married is unnecessary as many already know that & they're aware of all their options.